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"Writing on the Wall"

I recall applying for an internal management position at my then place of full-time employment almost thirty years ago. My friendly competition included two candidates, both of whom, I often professionally supervised on an informal collegial basis at their request. Of the three applicants, I was the only one to have been credentialed with a doctorate and all of the requisite job-related experience by comparison. “On paper,” I thought I was the “obvious choice” but I soon realized that I was mistaken because the job went to the least qualified person. I was shocked and requested a meeting with one of the adm......
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Winners and Losers

The problem with “winners” is that the “losers” almost invariably seek revenge and retaliation.  And when the “losers” eventually become the “winners,” the process recapitulates itself, ad infinitum. Human beings seem to innately discern, very quickly, what is deemed to be “fair” or “not fair.”  When someone believes they have been treated “not fair” the feelings engendered often are to “get even.” By “leveling-the-playing-field” and “making the other guy pay” we seek to “even the score.”  Of course, a “tied-score” gets all combatants to “even” or the equivalent of being “zero-ed-out.” At “zero,” there can be no compelling justification for “the thrill of victory” or “the agony of defeat.”Recall that when ......
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“, for now.”

No matter what major, moderate or minor crisis, challenge or conundrum you face in any area of your life, please consider adding the words “, for now” to the end of any thought or communication about your problem or concern. The phrase, “, for now” is a constant reminder that when “stuff happens,” it is usually reasonable to expect that any “hope, wish, and prayer” for both people and circumstances to change are likely over time, space, and perspective. “Nothing lasts forever” even though it may seem, otherwise, so whatever may appear to be the case in a particular moment of your life is what i......
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"Feelings Aren't Right"

“Feelings aren’t right.”They simply exist to orient us to what we need, want or require. Affective experience is an ontogenetic precursor to cognition.Developmentally, feelings occur long before our thinking with language is possible. As such, feelings are pre-verbal and pre-logical.Again, they simply exist to orient us to what we need, want or require. A feeling is a transitory emotional state which will vary according to context.To state this point differently, all feelings are subject to change! Affective experience is the emotional iceberg below the visible tip of the felt feeling.It comprises any given feeling in relation to the experiencing of the entir......
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