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I Might Just Piss You Off!

Not that I wish to offend, but sometimes I must.The truth hurts and so, too, does a lie. “Mirror, mirror on the wall...” am I the fairest one of all?Of course you are! After all, who wouldn’t see just how very special you are?Except for the fact that you are not always right. Or good. Or kind. Or considerate. Or respectful.In fact, sometimes, you are wrong! And nasty. And mean. And selfish. And spiteful.True or false? Here is where I can help.With a passionate calling to counsel and to mentor. Confess-conceal, pretend-be real!To get from here to there, just sometimes... You...
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“, for now.”

No matter what major, moderate or minor crisis, challenge or conundrum you face in any area of your life, please consider adding the words “, for now” to the end of any thought or communication about your problem or concern. The phrase, “, for now” is a constant reminder that when “stuff happens,” it is usually reasonable to expect that any “hope, wish, and prayer” for both people and circumstances to change are likely over time, space, and perspective. “Nothing lasts forever” even though it may seem, otherwise, so whatever may appear to be the case in a particular moment of...
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How to Be a Good “Crazy” Person!

Many years ago I stumbled upon the ‘secret formula’ of how to be a good “crazy” person:Simply live your life in such a way that you “know you know and know you mustn’t...”Then whatever follows can only remain a compensatory adaptation to living your life a lie! The ‘antidote’ is equally straightforward:When you “know you know, and know, and act accordingly and consistently with that which you know...”Then whatever follows can only result in living your life a truth! I suspect that most of us “know” what we “know” even when we don’t “know” how we “know.”In addition, we often “know”...
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Mentoring Moment

Disciple: “Lost I am, now must I what do?”Master: “A path you seek, may search I with you?” Disciple: “Direction implore I, do still I forsooth!”Master: “Illusion is maya, truth is truth.” Disciple: “Is maya of maya, not the ideal?”Master: “Illusion is illusion, only real is real.” Disciple: “Found I am, now know I my way.”Master: (Nothing need more, Master must say.) Author Note: Dr. Larry B. Gelman is a Clinical Psychologist and a Personal Mentor PMS Blog Comments Policy | PMS Copyright | PMS Disclaimer | PMS Citation Information www.personalmentoringservices.com © 2015 Northern Illinois Counseling Associates, P.C. (NICA), Personal Mentoring...
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“3+/-E’s”

In my opinion, there are three positive (+) or good “E’s” and three negative (-) or bad “E’s”. The first good “E” is to be “Effective.” To do what you set out to do.To finish what you started.To do it correctly, preferably the first time.To achieve the desired result. If you are not effective, then you are ineffective. To not do what you set out to do.To not finish what you started.To not do it correctly the first time.To not achieve the desired result. Effective is good; ineffective is less good but not, necessarily, bad. Because you can do more of...
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"FINE"

  Doctor: “How are you?”Patient: “Fine. Doctor: “What would you like to talk about today?”Patient: “Nothing much.” Doctor: “How come?”Patient: “Because I’m fine.” Doctor: “What exactly do you mean by fine?”Patient: “I thought you’d never ask!”   “F” stands for fucked-up.”“I” stands for inconsolable.”“N” stands for nothingness.”“E” stands for empty.” “I’m fine!”“And how are you? Interestingly, the patient smiled when the doctor inquired as to what was meant by the use of the word, “fine.” Later it was admitted that the doctor, alone, had “passed the test” which “more than a dozen other doctors” had failed. The “test” was to...
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"I Count Grains of Sand"

He was but a humble young adult visitor from a foreign land, a guest in the home of a very wealthy older man.Opulence, bordering on decadence, permeated every room of the host’s palacial estate. A clever psychopath-in-disguise and less-than-honorable man, the elder made a most striking first impression!Who was this heavily monied individual with visible means beyond compare, thought the wide-eyed foreign lad. Timidly, he queried his host: “Sir, what exactly is it that you do?”Whereupon, followed a most unusual and dismissive reply: “I count grains of sand.” No further discussion ensued for how could it as the answer stopped the...
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"I Am..."

Master: “Who are you?” Disciple #1: “I am a human being in the process of becoming.” Disciple #2: “I am a human being in-process.” Disciple #3: “I am a human being.” Disciple #4: “I am a human.” Disciple #5: “I am a being.” Disciple #6: “I am being.” Disciple #7: “I am.” Disciple #8: “I.” Disciple #9: “I am not I.” Disciple #10: “I am not that I am and I am not that I am not.” Disciple #11: “I am s/he who shall forever be called nameless.” Disciple #12: (Awakened, breathing and smiling). Author Note: Dr. Larry B. Gelman is...
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The Fulcrum of Truth

  Imagine a teeter-totter on a playground. The balance-point or center is called the fulcrum. Now think of the word: T-R-U-T-H equally positioned on the teeter-totter. Where is the fulcrum? It’s U! Now think of the word: T-R-U-S-T equally positioned on the teeter-totter.Where is the fulcrum? Again, it’s U! Take a breath.Hold it.Exhale. Think long and hard and deep.Consider what this means. If U are the fulcrum of your truth...And if U are the fulcrum of your trust...Then U are the fulcrum of you! The balance-point or center of the truth of your trust and the trust in your truth...
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Inciting Insight and Activating Action

The purpose of my writing is to “incite insight” and to “activate action.” I have no objection to ideas and efforts which differ from my own. In fact, I welcome them. My humble goal is to think and judge and act for myself. Along the way, I may have an opportunity to invite others to think and judge and act for themselves but only if they are receptive to my voice. Truly, I am unaware of any particular need for me to be right or to foist my particular way upon anyone else. I am but only one small voice in...
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Whole and Holey

When I think of the personal mentors in my life, I am reminded of their sage insights, their discerning candor, and the genuineness of their own “walk.” Mostly, I recall their unflagging commitment to me – guiding me forward, sometimes back, often up and down and around, and sideways a few times, to be sure, but always in service of me – and my personal growth and development.   My personal mentors took nothing for granted and were grateful for everything. They sought meaning every day, in every act, and within each moment - carpe diem. They engaged living with awe and...
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